Stress and worry can seriously impact your, mine or any business…
That’s because it’s extremely difficult to make effective decisions when you’re emotionally exhausted.
In this article we will be discussing stress, How to calm yourself, Separate yourself from Stress, Believe you can do it, and Be more productive.
Financial Risk
This subject of stress, comes up over and over again, especially when people are dealing with the financial risks inherent in building their business.
Building a business is no easy thing. This is why many people choose to work for someone else. For the few who choose to venture out and start a business, be it a franchise, brick and mortar, home based business or a simple “mom and pop” business their is a level of anxiety and stress.
Even the most successful people will recall how they felt: Excited, Silly, Nervous, Doubt, Anxiety and even Stress.
Anything that is “UNKNOWN” has a reaction even Fear. This is normal.
Starting a new business can be called, “Navigating a new venture into the unknown in uncertain times.”
Uncertain time does not necessarily mean economy. Business have been started in a good economy and bad economy. Uncertain times is insecure, a lack of predictability or the inability to predict or to place confidence in the unknown.
The financial risk is or can be the “heart” of anxiety, stress or doubt.
Purchasing a franchise requires hundreds or thousands of dollars. Are you guaranteed success? Not really. A franchise is a plan that has been proven successful. Do franchises fail? Yes they do.
Starting a brick and mortar also requires money. Money for a new building, or rent. Money for fixtures, inventory, and grand opening. Is there a guarantee? NO!
What about a business you purchase that looks like a franchise but is not the traditional franchise structure. Guarantee success? NO!
Now we come a home based business such as a network marketing business. Guarantee success? NO!
All of these require financial risk. And financial risk causes anxiety, doubt, nervous and STRESS.
This is why so many people choose a JOB instead.
Case in point: Jim, a good friend started a new business, not a franchise but one that looked like a franchise. Jim went through all the emotions of excitement, nervous and doubt. On the day of opening his new business, his emotions were high. At the end of the day he made sales. Jim now had the confidence about stepping out from the crowd and being an entrepreneur.
Jim’s brother, Mike on the other hand was not one who could handle the uncertainty of owning a business. Mike found a local business and went to work as an employee. Mike was safe in a job
Nine years later, Jim’s business adventure was successful and he is financially secure. Mike, on the other hand, lost his job due to downsizing. He found another Job within months and again an employee. However, that job was also lost due to the business moving to another state. Mike now works as an employee in Jim’s business. True story.
The difference between Jim and Mike was that Jim was willing to do what most people will not do….be independent.
For the many that go into network marketing, they have made a decision to be independent. They are willing to do what many will not do and deal with the uncertainty that come with owning a business.
Network marketers are willing to take the risk in favor of becoming financially independent. But with that comes frustration…And I will deal with that later.
How Do You Deal With Stress And Be Successful In Your Network Marketing Opportunity?
How do you stay productive in the face of adversity and how to you effectively ask for help?
These are critical skills you’ve got to develop if you want to succeed in any business.
You need to be Calm, Ask for Help When Necessary, Separate your Stress from Work and Believe In Yourself.
The first of these is Bring yourself to a state of calm.
First, you need to be in a positive state; or at least a state of calm. Tough to do, but if you simply think about the “outcome” “the future of your business” “a good bank account” it is amazing how we can develop a sense of Calmness.
With any home based business, you can’t even think straight when you’re emotionally agitated.
When you’re uncertain or doubt, you don’t have focus or clarity. You don’t ask effective questions or make sound decisions.
If you’re in a negative emotional state how do you expect others around you to believe in your business?
People who are often frustrated by the challenges of advertising, for example often lash out in a negative emotional state, asking questions…
“I don’t know what’s going on! My ads aren’t working!” or “I have talked to 10 – 20 people and no one has joined my business.” I will deal with that one later.
And here’s the thing to keep in mind…
These statement don’t provide any information for someone to actually help them.
Basically, these type of negative question just lets the everyone know they’re struggling emotionally.
And why would someone do that?
Well, the answer is simple…
It’s because they aren’t even thinking. They maybe in an agitated state of mind. Remember, earlier I said anyone who started a new business can develop uncertainty, doubt, emotional stress and the “unknown.”
To be successful at network marketing or any type of business…
We have to train ourselves as entrepreneurs to deal with emotional stress
I’m sure many of you can relate to feeling this way of emotional stress
It’s common when we get started in a new business, because it’s a brand new experience.
We’re wide-eyed and overwhelmed at the same time, and that leads to a lot of negative emotions and reactions.
We’re scared because we don’t know what the heck we’re doing!
And that’s nothing to be ashamed of; it happens to everyone, even the most successful network marketer at first.
Your getting outside your comfort zone. Your dealing with situation you may have never faced. Your overwhelmed.
But the bottom line is simple. When you’re in a negative state and frantically asking for help, you unfortunately won’t be able to get help you need.
This bring us to the second of the four success ideas most entrepreneurs use daily.
If you want help, first you need to…
Let go back to the emotional person who said, “My ads are not working!”
What does that mean? “My ads are not working?” Obviously, there’s no concrete information provided.
So when asking for help, we then have to say…
“Calm down or slow down. Please provide some information about your ad, we need to know in order to help you.”
Which leads to a lengthy back-and-forth exchange of trying to get to the bottom of the issue, rather than an efficient conversation that immediately helps the situation.
This is not productive in any way!
Because in order to receive help and advice, you have to provide specific information—actual data!—data that can be analyzed in order to offer help.
And in order to ask for help effectively, you need to be in a state where you can actually be calm and THINK.
The best way to calm your emotions?
People often don’t realize that thoughts can be anxiety symptoms. We so admire our intellect that we tend to think of our thoughts as always representing some powerful, truthful expression of reality. However, our brains are just as capable of producing a bunch of noisy nonsense as they are of solving a complex equation, or writing a beautiful sonata.
Our brains are organs devoted to solving problems, just like our stomachs are organs devoted to digesting food. When we direct them to solve a problem, like adding up numbers or reading a paragraph, brains generally do a good job. But there is no “off switch” to the brain. It is always looking for problems, just as our stomachs are always waiting for food. When our brains lack problems to solve, they often make some up.
When faced with a problem like, “My ads are not working!” Stop.
Calmly ask yourself, “Who was the ad directed to?” “What words were in the ad?” “Would I have responded to the ad?”
If your network marketing business is a weight loss program, did you direct the ad to people wanting to loose weight? Or was the ad veg? Did you use words in the ad that indicated weight loss? When you looked at the ad, determine if you would have responded.
Calmly look at the ad.
A great way to calm yourself before “flying off everywhere” is meditation.
Now, I’m not an ‘esoteric’ guy, but I do see the value of meditation.
Meditation can help calm you down and bring you back into a positive state.
Focus on things that are positive!
Now, if you’re not the mediation type, Tony Robbins has a great gratitude meditation.
It’s called “The Guided Reflection” or the “Emotional Flood” exercise.
You can go to YouTube right now and search for “Tony Robbins gratitude meditation,” and he’ll take you through the process.
In this exercise you go from a negative state, a state of internal conflict, to a state of gratitude and joy.
It brings you back to a point where you can actually think and focus.
This is so important, and it reminds me of something I’ve been taught called…
“Walking with Death”
It’s the ability that our Special Forces use to remain calm in a state of heightened pressure.
Situations where bullets are flying and people are dying.
How do you maintain your composure in that environment?
What soldiers have trained to do, especially in the Special Forces, is to already accept the fact that they might die.
They’ve accepted, and made peace with that idea, and then they go into battle.
If you’re not afraid to die then you’re not afraid, period.
Not to say that it’s as easy as that, of course, but it’s an advanced way of being able to deal with stress.
Most of us aren’t ready to deal with that level of stress.
A more attainable version would be simply bringing yourself into a state of calm.
Now instead of, “My ads are not working.” Say, “Why are my ads not working?”
So even if things aren’t going right, you’re able to physically feel calm.
Now here is the third suggestion, Separate your stress from the work at hand.…
You may be asking…
“How do I separate from stress? Especially if I have financial issues, or my spouse is negative, or I hate my job? How do I separate from those things?”
Or “Why are my ads not working?” which is causing your stress.
Well, you have to emotionally set those things aside and say…
“Okay, I’ll deal with that later. I have work to do.”
If you’re not able to focus for one or two hours, then you’re not going to be productive, and you won’t get the results you need.
Your work now is your ads. Take time away. Have some coffee, take a walk, sit back look out the widow for a few minutes and move into a positive state.
Here’s where your going to say, “Okay, I need to focus.” “I need to be subjective.” and “I need to realize not everything I do is going to work out.”
And a big part of this equation is being able to…
Belive your going to succeed is to never doubted yourself.
This ad may not have given you the success you was looking for, but it gave you a lesson on what was not working.
Never doubt your belief that what your doing will eventually will result into success and a breakthrough in this business.
And, believe with absolute certainty that your network marketing business will be successful.
Not only are you going to need to find a way to remain calm with a little set back, but you need to emotionally separate yourself from the stuff that’s not going as you planned…
In order to be successful at your Network Marketing business opportunity…
You must find the unshakable belief that you CAN do this
Because without that belief it’s going to be hard, even while being calm, for you to focus and think objectively.
If your new to network marketing your belief level may not be there yet.
That’s okay. It really is.
When learning to ride a bike…what was your belief level? You knew you could do it, but you fell, you tried again, you fell, you tried again, and each time you fell you learned. With trial and error, you found out that you could ride the bike…your belief level is now secure.
Your network marketing business is the same as riding a bike…you WILL fall, you WILL try again, you WILL fall, and you WILL try again. Soon, you will learn what is working and what is not. Your belief level is now secure.
A simple thing to do is to believe in something you’re going.
Develop the belief that you’re going to generate your first commission, that first sale, or speak to that first prospect.
Develop the belief that you can at least do that.
Believe you can accomplish the next step!
Maybe you’re not in a place where you can believe that you’re going to be a multi-millionaire just yet.
That’s okay.
And maybe that’s not even your goal.
Maybe you have other goals that are more important to you such as a new house, new car, travel without worry of money….
But at least, believe you can achieve the next level of success.
Making a bunch of Money!
Whatever that looks like for you.
Too many people place them self in the pressure of making a Bunch Of Money. Making a bunch of money is NOT the objective! Making a few dollars part-time to accomplish your goal of the new house is your objective.
By doing what other will not do sets you apart from them. The little thing you do daily, will soon result in the income you need to be comfortable.
Again, MONEY is NOT YOUR GOAL. The things that MONEY will buy is YOUR GOAL.
So the only thing you have to worry about is doing enough to get to that next level of success.
My friend Ray Higdon mentioned something, which has to do with how you see yourself now.
He says…
“What’s in your bank account or what’s in your financial books, that reflects a PAST version of you. It doesn’t reflect who you are.”
If you can believe that, then you can accomplish some pretty amazing things.
It’s another way to bring yourself to a state of calm, so you can get the job done, and do the things you need to do.
Remember, step one is to do whatever is necessary to…
Bring yourself to a state of calm
I know exercise and reading were part of the equation for me.
You need to set aside some time just for you—where you can forget everything else that maybe happening.
If you don’t have a lot of time then simple meditation exercises can help.
Find out what works for you!
Again, you must be able to:
- Bring yourself to a state of calm
- Ask for help in a clear, concise way
- Set your problems aside and focus on being productive
- Believe that you’re going to succeed with your next level of success
By following these steps…
You can put your stress aside and be more productive
Now, are you ready to take some of the stress, anxiety, and worry out of building your network marketing business by focusing on taking EXACTLY the necessary steps you need to succeed…and focus on the ones that don’t?
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